Okay, its obvious that I say ‘sorry’ too often, even when it is not required. Which singer was it who said ‘sorry seems to be the hardest word to say’? Was it Elton John? I don’t know for sure, and I’m not a huge fan of Elton, and it doesn’t really matter on what I’m going to write here anyway. Well, we Nepalis, at least (up to or) from my generation, are never brought up to say ‘please’, ‘thank you’ and ‘sorry’, even when we really ought to be saying those words. We are used to asking somebody to do something for us, and don’t care to add ‘please’ when we ask. May be that’s slowly changing nowadays due to ‘western influence’ (one good influence I’ll say), but when I left Nepal some 8 years ago, I left without learning these etiquette. Of course I had hard time getting used to saying these words, especially when you have to use at least one in virtually every sentence. But when you have to, you have to, and you learn pretty quickly too!
I now think at least my generation, and generations after us, have learnt to be polite (please), grateful (thank you), and taking responsibility of our actions (sorry, when things go wrong) – although I would be the first to acknowledge that I don’t always MEAN them when I say these words. And I presume its same for a lot of others, but at least we ‘appear’ well behaved. Hypocrite I am, we all are to some extent but what matters in a lot of cases is that we appear ‘nice’ in our “bolibachan”.
But when I think of the generations before my own, especially our leaders, bureaucrats and all those who were in one way or other ‘
running ruining our country’, ‘sorry’ really seems to be among the unspeakable words in their vocabulary – may be it doesn’t exist at all in their “gidi” which has so successfully ruined our country during the last decade or so.
Prachanda, the man with the blood of more than 10,000 nepalis on his hands, when asked if all that loss of lives was worth at the end, what does he say? He says those “sacrifices” were necessary to bring in the “change”. No ‘sorry’ nor the acceptance of the responsibility (be it partial) of what happened over the 10 years of insurgency under his leadership. Saying sorry will not bring back those thousands of lives, but at least people will have some satisfaction of knowing Prachanda took the responsibility, and that he said sorry for their losses. And to be honest, people will have the satisfaction of knowing who to blame for those loss of lives!
Gyanendra messed up the country’s political system for a few years since he came to power after the royal massacre. No matter how good his intentions, he messed up. Does he accept that? Hold his hand up and say ‘sorry, I messed up’? Of course not, instead, one year on after his powers were “taken away” he releases a statement saying what he did was right!
And all the (corrupt) leaders, who ransacked the state institutions over the past decade, and the prime ministers leading successive governments who failed to control corruption during their regimes – have they apologised to the public for failing to do what they promised they would during each and every election? Of course not, instead they blame each other for the mess while “trying” to stay clean themselves – of course without realizing that they are in the same puddle and throwing stone to get their opponents dirty makes them dirty as well!
Anyway, just my mindless musings. SORRY if I bored you with this, and a genuine sorry at that!